It is the dream of almost every woman to be married someday to a man whom she really loves and who loves her back in equal measure. Getting to see your sweet pie beside you is probably the best thing you could ever wish for in life. It’s clear to all that you can’t reach this phase without a rigorous dating process that is usually filled with ups and downs. However, it doesn’t go well with all people. You get to meet this soft spoken, gentle and handsome man who has the body physique you’ve always craved for. By all means, he is your Mr right. He is that guy who only existed in your dreams. Things start taking shape gradually. Jinxes as usual are not too far. The love of your life starts losing interest in you. The programmed calls and chats are no longer there. The sweet words, surprises and outings are long gone. Feeling like a liability to him is what follows next. In your endless barrage of questions why, have you ever considered that you could be the source of your mishap. Below is the checklist:

Time – for any serious relationship to bear the desired fruits, time must be devoted. Though your schedule maybe tight, create some little time to be with your partner. It may not always be physical but create other avenues such as calls and texts. Lions have emotions too. That’s why they roar when offended.

Pour out your heart – there is this thought that a woman cannot approach a man and let her feelings known to him. You cannot be in a relationship with yourself. It takes two to tango.  Let that son of woman feel and know that you really love him. Keeping mum makes him start doubting you.

Trim your ignorance and arrogance – Men also like attention from their spouses. That’s why a considerable number of men will always seek solace elsewhere, prompting them to engage in extramarital affairs. It might not be purely about sex as many think.

Be there for him – like women, men keep a lot of secrets. It takes a very smart woman to earn a man’s trust. When he’s in turmoil and struggles he won’t tell you that easily. However, assuming that you understand him, you’ll get to notice.  This will triple his love for you.

Delicacies – the easiest way to a man’s heart, even the small boys, is through your cooking prowess. This tells a lot about you. Let him not crave for restaurant foods. Make him always yearn for your food. Work on that recipe sister.

Be orderly – ladies are considered the brains behind smart men, beautiful houses and elegant children. No man would want to take home a girl who cannot coordinate her make-up and lives in a messy room. It leaves less to be desired.

Avoid much conversations with other men – no man is an island, however, if you are committed to your relationship, don’t entertain other men. This prompts your man to be jealous and seeks for rebounds. In the process, he gets to meet a Lady whom he’ll definitely consider better than you. Remember greener pastures are always the best.

Strive to make your man the best – every person in life has his or her own weaknesses. Never shy away from correcting him. He’s not an angel. Don’t assume he will definitely realize his mistakes. It shows your commitment in the relationship by doing so.

Fun fact: This article was written way back in 2017. Whoa! Man had dreams. Had JIL Africa been born sooner………..

By Kingsley Mutethia.


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